So recap of my life over the last 6 months....some of you know, some of you don't, some of you THINK you know.
Last October our lives as we knew it, came to a halt, pause, stutter....abrupt end.
So many things happened, so many things were said, so many things that are hard to come back from....but Steve and I filed for divorce. It was not easy, not what either of us had planned. I moved out the end of November and our divorce was final the beginning of February.
Steve and I have worked together rather well, actually. The way we worked the assets and $, he was able to refinance the house to keep in his name....we both wanted this for the girls and I knew that I would never be able to keep up with the upkeep on the house....can you imagine me mowing the yard? I have an apartment near the school but hopefully will look to buy something this fall. Both of our lawyers agreed this was the easiest divorce they have processed b/c we didn't fight over anything and we had almost no debt to split.....the house and then we each took a car, nothing else.
We were able to spend Christmas and New Years together which was nice. We've had no arguments about holidays and honestly, I think we are just really doing what is best for the kids at this point. I have much lower patience with the kids b/c I think they they push me further....b/c isn't that was daughters do to mothers? Steve is willing to have us come to the house for a change of scenery when we are cooped up for too long in this small space or when the kids want to play outside with the neighbor kids (pre-coronavirus)
The girls are doing pretty good! We informed both teachers and the guidance counselor of the situation and they all have been so supportive. I think the girls have so many friends with divorced parents that it didn't really seem all that abnormal to them, which is really sad. Of course they have their moments and emotional breakdowns but I think they would have those anyways.
So we are living our new normal...it's not always pretty, it's not where we thought we would be a year ago...but we are here. We are working on everything day by day. It is hard to lose your best friend and then try to figure out where you stand in each others lives. So day by day is all we have.
Last October our lives as we knew it, came to a halt, pause, stutter....abrupt end.
So many things happened, so many things were said, so many things that are hard to come back from....but Steve and I filed for divorce. It was not easy, not what either of us had planned. I moved out the end of November and our divorce was final the beginning of February.
Steve and I have worked together rather well, actually. The way we worked the assets and $, he was able to refinance the house to keep in his name....we both wanted this for the girls and I knew that I would never be able to keep up with the upkeep on the house....can you imagine me mowing the yard? I have an apartment near the school but hopefully will look to buy something this fall. Both of our lawyers agreed this was the easiest divorce they have processed b/c we didn't fight over anything and we had almost no debt to split.....the house and then we each took a car, nothing else.
We were able to spend Christmas and New Years together which was nice. We've had no arguments about holidays and honestly, I think we are just really doing what is best for the kids at this point. I have much lower patience with the kids b/c I think they they push me further....b/c isn't that was daughters do to mothers? Steve is willing to have us come to the house for a change of scenery when we are cooped up for too long in this small space or when the kids want to play outside with the neighbor kids (pre-coronavirus)
The girls are doing pretty good! We informed both teachers and the guidance counselor of the situation and they all have been so supportive. I think the girls have so many friends with divorced parents that it didn't really seem all that abnormal to them, which is really sad. Of course they have their moments and emotional breakdowns but I think they would have those anyways.
So we are living our new normal...it's not always pretty, it's not where we thought we would be a year ago...but we are here. We are working on everything day by day. It is hard to lose your best friend and then try to figure out where you stand in each others lives. So day by day is all we have.
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